March 26th 2019: Day in the Life
I want to preface this “Day in the Life” with some perspective. This was both an “easy day” because Molly was in daycare, which happens twice a week, and a “hard day” because Jason was gone for most of it. It was also on the harder side because I am on the third day of a head cold and because James is fighting a stomach virus. My life normally has a lot of poo in it, but not quite this much! Haha!
Also, this was a very eye-opening exercise. I am often bewildered with what happened to my day, and lose track of accomplishments. When Jason asked about my day via text, I only mentioned the diaper accidents and not much else but I obviously managed and dealt with a lot! My reason for doing this was that I wanted a record of what life was like right now, since it’s a lot of chaos but also a lot of joy. Things are hectic and tiring and fun.
6:07 am: We wake up because Molly woke up. Jason has to leave at 6:45am so he is already up and he hands Molly a yoghurt and gets her dressed before he heads out. I make a coffee, let out the dog, supervise Molly feeding him, give her more food, and suggest some things she can play while I sip my coffee and eat yesterday’s cornbread.
7:00 am: James is up! He had a diaper explosion (he’s sick) so I deal with that, make his bottle, feed him, talk with Molly, let Finn out again, fill his water, refill James’ diaper drawer with diapers and wipes and cloths in case of another explosion, get both kids and myself dressed. James pukes on himself and on me so we both change our clothes again. Our wonderful twice-a-month house cleaner is coming so I get Molly to help me tidy the living room toys. I also check the soil on our tiny vegetable and flower sprouts.
8:00 am: I get both kids dressed and in jackets so we can take Molly to daycare (she only goes Tuesdays and Thursdays). She doesn’t want to go. I tried to remember to return a tupperware and some spare pants Molly borrowed from school but I forget them by the door. Molly is upset when we leave and waves at us from the window. James doesn’t remember how to wave until we are back in the car which makes my heart break a little bit.
8:30 am: I let James play in the dining room while I tidy his room (because the fact that our cleaner is coming is literally on refrain in my head. Go! Go! Go!). I fold all his laundry and go to check on him. He had another explosive poo and it’s made it up his back and into his hair so we head for the bathtub. I take a moment to thank past me for refilling the diaper drawer. I hope I can pick up my clothes off the bedroom floor before the cleaner gets here!
9:00 am: Out of the bath, dried off, tucked in for a nap! I head downstairs with all the new laundry and come up with my dry laundry to fold and put away. While upstairs I also tidy our room and take out the upstairs garbages from my studio and random items that are lying around and are actually garbage. Jason took out the recycling this morning before leaving but I run out to add some items. Then I tackle the kitchen. I went to craft night last night and Jason was busy with work so all of yesterday’s dishes are still there. Unload and load the dishwasher, and also put away all the random stuff. Refill Finn’s water. I want to sit down so I run upstairs to type this blog post. Then I quickly whip around the house putting away random items and toys.
10:15 am: The cleaner arrives! Finn barks his head off because he loves her and by some miracle the barking doesn’t wake James. THANK YOU, UNIVERSE! I chat for a bit because I love our cleaner, too, and then she starts working while I take Finn outside to play ball and pick up dog and rabbit poo from the backyard. (This day/my life has so much poo in it. Sorry. Also, either wild rabbits poo a lot or we have like 400 rabbits hiding somewhere?)
11:00 am: Back upstairs to work. I’m not sure when James will wake up so I answer some emails first. It feels like today has already been three days long. Just me? No? I also start each day by organizing my life using Asana. Every work project is in there, with steps broken into actions and I follow and update it religiously. I tidied my work space yesterday, so that makes today feel like a nice clean slate. I am waiting for my current commission in progress to dry (it’s an oil) so I end up doing some kind of bad sketchbook paintings of flowers in oil paint that I am definitely not sharing on social media any time soon. Ha!
12:00 pm: The vacuum is running and I think I hear James so I pop into his room but he’s still asleep so I scarf a quick lunch and let Finn out. We finally wake James at 12:30 so his room can be cleaned. Our cleaner surprised me by taking Molly’s laundry from the dryer, making her bed and folding her clothes in perfect Kon Mari method style! Amazing!! I put them away in the drawers.
1:00 pm: James eats and then plays for a bit with new toys I brought up from the basement for him (we rotate them out). I sit by him and interact a bit but mostly stare blankly at nothing because I am getting super tired.
1:30 pm: He has another poop explosion and after he is dressed again (and I spend 15 minutes googling dehydration symptoms in babies - he’s fine) we put on our coats and head for the art supply store. I need three new tubes of paint to replace some that have emptied, and also a couple other things. The ladies in the store love him and he practices waving which is very cute.
3:00 pm: We are home and I think James is probably tired again so I put him down for a nap. I have a quick snack and don’t hear him so I hop in the shower (because the first shower after someone else has cleaned it? BEST SHOWER EVER). But when I get out of the shower he is babbling and I go in because I am worried he had another diaper disaster. He didn’t but when I shut the door he starts screaming. Urgh. However, when I am getting dressed the cats are snuggling and cleaning each other on the bed which is very cute, so I documented that too.
4:00 pm: I get James up and feed him. I was going to use this time to make dinner before picking up Molly so after giving him a bottle I read up on what foods to give babies with diarrhea and give him rice crackers and bananas in his chair while I make pasta, feed Finn, and tidy up what I can of my dinner process. When dinner is ready I turn off all the stove elements, block Finn out of the room and pack up James to go pick up Molly from school. My mother-in-law calls and asks if I would like her to come and help with bedtime. I say YES.
5:30 pm: Picking up Molly from school. We see a good friend who is picking up her kids at the same time and they seem to behave wonderfully while Molly puts her coat on backwards (so the hood covers her face) and runs up and down the hall like a nut. We finally have a stern discussion and head home. This time I remembered to bring back the tupperware and the pants!
6:00 pm. Molly hates the pasta and won’t eat it. I give James just plain noodles because of his tummy troubles. Molly says she is going to puke if I make her eat this pasta. I finally say she can go play instead of eating so she goes to her room and promptly develops James’ intestinal virus. GREAT. My mother-in-law arrives in the nick of time and I hand her James while I hand wash Molly’s clothes in the bathroom (the FIFTH time hand washing clothes in the bathroom today, which I am starting to not feel so nice and understanding about). Darlene and I split up and each put a kid to bed.
7:15 pm to 8:30 pm: Molly resists bedtime with a variety of complaints and Darlene heads home. I spend 30 minutes staring blankly at both monitors trying to move past the exhaustion. I finally head upstairs to write this blog post. So as of right now, Molly is still awake and complaining and James is waking up in intervals to cry a few times and fall back asleep.